How to stop fear from holding you back

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‘I don’t have the experience, Lord.’

‘I don’t have what it takes, Lord.’

‘I don’t know where to start?’

‘What would others think of me?’

‘I’m too young. Who would even take me seriously?’

‘I’ll do it when …’

Have you asked God to use you in your life, in your university life, church or community?

Many years ago, I remember asking God this very question. But when He spoke, I disqualified myself. I couldn’t go through with it. I simply felt inadequate to step out into the works He called me to do.

Why?

FEAR!

I resisted, made excuses, and even stopped asking God to use me!

Have you felt the same? Perhaps said the same?

If you have, let me tell you that you are not alone!

But I also want to tell you this.

Fear is not from God.

Fear is from the enemy and he has been using it time and time again to hold us captive. The spirit of fear is not from God.

2 Timothy 1:7 NKJV

‘For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.’

Are you feeling Gods’s nudge to move into something bigger?

Maybe you are hearing the Holy Spirit tell you to step up and out into ministry? Or maybe that still small voice is asking you to quit something and shift direction; a different course of study, a different vocation or job? These can be scary thoughts.

But dear one, when God puts a desire in our hearts, when He ask us to move into something bigger than ourselves, we must remember that He doesn’t need someone who is already qualified. Instead, we need to remember this.

God qualifies us as we journey into His purpose and calling.

As daunting as it might be, we need to trust that He has it all worked out, and will ordain each of our step as we move forward in faith with Him.

When He calls us into a purpose and an assignment, what He wants is a willing heart; He wants YOUR willing heart. When we say, ‘YES, Lord, use me, let me be your vessel’, it gives Him the ability to work in and through us. It won’t come easy. We will encounter difficulties. We will face resistance or even setbacks. But we also have a God who has overcome the world! Walk in confidence in Him who knows the end, as it says in Philippians 1:4-6;

‘In all my prayers for all of you, I always pray with joy because of your partnership in the gospel from the first day until now, being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.’

 
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How does fear affect us?

1. Fear keeps us stagnant and holds us captive.

When we don’t step out into our purpose and calling, we are depriving not only ourselves of fulfilling His works in our lives, but also depriving others of the gifts and talents that may be the very thing that blesses them. More than that, we’re essentially saying ‘God, I don’t trust your way!’ Ouch! That is the hard truth!

Fear makes you feel less than when you disqualify yourself from what God has called you to do. Fear makes you feel unworthy when you think your gifts and talents are too small to be used by Him.

God doesn’t care how big or small our gifts are but what God does care about is this:

God cares how faithfully we use what He has given us to bless others.

God calls us to step out and serve one another. The heart of the Father is to go after the one lost sheep, and so that should be our heart’s desire too.

2. Fear speaks the language of the enemy.

The enemy wants us as far away as possible from fulfilling the work God has called us to do. He knows that he can do that by making us feel fearful of the unknowns, putting self doubt in us which makes us shrink, withdraw and run away from the bigger plans God has for us. The sooner we recognise the voice of the enemy, the easier it is for us to step out with God.

How can you overcome the fear of stepping out?

1. Pray

We cannot underestimate the power and the weapon we have in prayer. Our prayers can move mountains and we have to believe in its power. When I was in the midst of a big shift in my career, with all the confusion and distress it was causing me, the one thing that kept me moving forward was my prayer. Pray for His wisdom and the ability to discern the voice of the Spirit and the voice of the enemy.

‘Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.’
- Philippians 4:6

2. Keep your focus on Him

It is easy to keep looking left and right when we are called to step out. The thief comes to steal, kill and destroy. And when the enemy makes us look around instead of keeping our eyes on Jesus, he knows our distraction will keep us away from doing what God has called us to do. Whether you are in ministry or are stepping into a different vocation, don’t compare your journey to the girl next to you. We each have a different journey, to reach different people in different ways. Keep your eyes fixed on Him, and know that God has a plan for you.

3. Move in faith

When we move and start stepping out, the enemy will do anything to hold us captive and restrained in that place of fear. Recognise this and do it in fear anyway. When we exercise our faith, God moves through us.

4. Trust The God you serve

When God calls us into an assignment, we need to trust that He already knows the course of it, the hows and the whys. He even knows the obstacles that you will face! Don’t fear the obstacles, they’re there for a reason. They grow us and make us rely more on God. Trust Him in the process.

If you feel God speaking into your heart to step out into a place that requires change, spend time in prayer and ask God for His wisdom and guidance. Lay down all your burdens, fears and confusion at His feet. Have that conversation with Him, and let Him guide you in your steps. But first, you need to make a decision.

Are you willing? Because He is looking for a willing heart.

 
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DR MONICA D RAJASAGARAM

Monica is writer, published author and a life coach for women and young girls. She is also a wife, mum to two little girls and community builder at About Her. After practicing as a medical practitioner for 12 years, she moved into life coaching and writing as she felt a calling on her life to share her life transformation and story to encourage and uplift others. She is passionate about coaching women and young girls to find their purpose, confidence and to step out into their God given calling, to be transformed for His good works. She also lives with a chronic illness of type 1 diabetes and has endured infertility in her recent five years. Through this, has grown in her walk of faith, at the same time believing that there is a purpose for her journey. What she loves to do when not working? Spending time with her beautiful family, a hot cup of coffee and a good book in her hand. Meet her on Instagram and Facebook.

Monica D Rajasagaram

Monica is writer, published author and a life coach for women and young girls. She is also a wife, mum to two little girls and community builder at About Her. After practicing as a medical practitioner for twelve years, she moved into life coaching and writing as she felt a calling on her life to share her life transformation and story to encourage and uplift others. She is passionate about coaching women and young girls to find their purpose, confidence and to step out into their God given calling, to be transformed for His good works. She also lives with a chronic illness of type 1 diabetes and has endured infertility in her recent five years. Through this, has grown in her walk of faith, at the same time believing that there is a purpose for her journey. What she loves to do when not working? Spending time with her beautiful family, a hot cup of coffee and a good book in her hand.