The other day I was talking to a friend and we were discussing all of the things we wished we could do, the things we wished we could be, the things we wished we could have ‘under control’ and all of the things we wished we’d already achieved. This conversation got me thinking...
As women, we berate ourselves for not losing enough weight, not getting everything done at work, not getting your assignment done ahead of schedule, not having enough money in the bank or for not being able to keep up with our savings plan from time to time, not keeping the house perfectly tidy, not being able to get to the gym or go for that early morning walk, or for not being the perfect wife, mum, daughter, sister, friend or colleague. I’m sure even as you’re reading this, that you’ve been thinking of other things in your life that are not exactly how you’d like them to be.
So, you’re not perfect?
It’s OK, neither am I.
We all have our weaknesses – they are what make us human, after all. But it’s time to quit putting ourselves down. We’ve got to put an end to harping on about our ‘imperfections’ – it doesn’t help anyone. I repeat – it doesn’t help anyone, not even yourself!
If you listen closely, I’ll tell you about the three words that changed my life – but you’ve got to promise me that you’ll take them on board! OK, here they are:
SHOW YOURSELF GRACE.
Lovely one, as much as we’d like to be perfect in every area of our lives – in our marriages, friendships, home lives, work lives, (the list goes on) – we’re human and that means we’re so not!
We heap a whole lot of pressure on ourselves by subconsciously setting ridiculously high expectations. And we all fall short of our expectations: the washing isn’t always perfectly folded and hung in colour-coded perfection, the kitchen isn’t always sparkling clean, the bills aren’t always paid on time (oops!) and our diets aren’t always sugar free (pass the chocolate!) – and that’s OK.
What does grace look like?
Well, I believe that God sent his son to die on the cross for you – the most shocking act of love the world has ever seen. And in that moment, He showed grace. Jesus died for every single one of your shortcomings – past, present and future.
And guess what – you are perfect in His eyes. You do not have to do anything to earn favour with God, you already have it simply because you’re you. He looks at you and He smiles. He is pleased with you. And if God sees you this why, then why shouldn’t you?
Today, I want to encourage you to breathe in His unending grace and allow yourself to show yourself grace! And why don’t you find some time for yourself, even just 30 minutes, to stop what you’re doing, sit down and have some quiet time? Sure, the laundry may have piled up from the week and your friends and family may by vying for your attention, but before you get stuck in to the endless house chores or spend time with other people, take a moment to look after yourself. And girl, you can relax guilt free, because you’re under grace.